Have you ever had the thought that your body should be different in some way? “I’m too fat, thin, short, or tall.” Or perhaps, “I should be healthy.” Do you notice the difference in the thoughts, “My body should be different” and “I should be different?” Is your body “you” in your entirety or is there more to “you” than that?
Your life would be better if you looked differently- can you really know that is true?
People would like you more if you were more attractive- can you really know that is true?
You would have a partner if you were more attractive- can you really know that is true?
You would be happy if your body was different- can you really know that is true?
These are simply questions but I am finding (through the work of Byron Katie) that my answer is I am not merely my body and my body should not be different. That doesn’t mean it will never change. Our bodies have been given to us to live this life in. And in my experience, it seems to be doing that job perfectly- I’m alive! You can go about your life believing “my body should look different” and if it doesn’t look different, it’s frustrating when you look in the mirror. Or, you can go about the same life believing “my body should not look different” and loving what you see in the mirror!
Brooke Uptagrafft, MD
Dr. Brooke is a family medicine doctor.